It will be alarming to know that 80% of the world relationship do not stand the test of time not because there is no love in the air but ignorance of the fact of how to keep your relationship going is the primary cause. Avoiding breaking up in your relationship should be the major focus of every serious couple.
All my life I have counsel couple and I have discover that most couples make the same mistake over and over again when it comes to how to avoid breaking and that is why I am writing this article. If you find yourself in a situation whereby, you find yourself breaking up and making up unusually then this piece is for you. Let share on some common mistake couples make;
THE INABILITY TO COMPROMISE
we are all people of different race, with different mindset, it is only normal to get on each other way, the same thing applies to relationship. The inability to compromise is one common mistake that has cause the breakup of much relationship. It in tell you playing along even when it is against your will, it also in tell accepting the blame even when you are right
THE ABSENCE OF GOOD COMMUNICATION RELATIONSHIP
No matter who ever I talk to, I also advice to keep a good communication relationship with your spouse, it the bedrock of every successful relationship, it is all about discuss and ironing out problem with your spouse. Many couple keeps an arm length from each other and that is one common mistake that always break up relationship.
SEX
The issues of sex has been a problem right from the onset, not having a good understand of sex can lead to break up especially with men who have a strong sexual appetite. It should be of importance to know that a common agreement should attend when it come to the issues of sex. Issues like, how often do we have sex? how ready are we ?
Learning to avoid this mistake can save you a lot of pain and misery. Striking a balance between you and your spouse is the key to a lasting relationship. Save yourself the pain and stress of making up, avoid this mistake and live a happy life with your spouse. You can get more by visiting Making up for life
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Monday, December 1, 2008
When Making Up, Use Honesty As Your Weapon
When your heart is broken, it's the most painful and emotional day of your life. Nothing else can so easily rob you of a will to live, or is more important than love. You have no one to turn to, because the person you would have leaned on, in this time of crisis, is the one you have separated from. You feel all alone in your quest to find answers and to rebuild your connection. It can be done though. Your relationship can be healed even after the most intense fight you've ever had, even if the reasons are valid and serious and damning. There's a way you can come back from this and be stronger and in love all over again by simply making up.
This process is more detailed than simply reliving your break up, or your fight, in your mind, or talking about it. It contains many different twists and turns, none of them flattering or comfortable. But each step is necessary and important.
It's also vital that you do this very soon after your break up. Don't wait. Do it now. If you want or need to analyze it, do it quickly. The longer you wait the more time there is for thoughts to enter your mind and his/hers that will make the making up part harder.
I'll give you a few steps and ideas here, then I suggest you look at my bio for an ebook that I know will help you as it has helped many others in the art of making up. And yes, it is an art. Actually I think he called it magic. We all need a little magic from time to time. That's why so many people need help in their time of crisis. You are not alone.
I found that after a fight, or break up, I must sit quietly and think about all that was said and done and the cause of it. Then I can look at it a little more objectively. When I do this, I can often see what I said and did that was wrong and I concentrate on what I've done, should do next time, or didn't do. I cannot change what they did, but I can listen to their words and feelings and start planning how I'm going to go about making up.
It's so important at this time to be brutally honest, with yourself as well as with your lover or partner. It's hard though, too, because your feelings sometimes get in the way. You must persist. If you cannot be honest, you will have nothing on which to build. If it's hard for you, consider the probability that it's just as hard for him/her.
So my first word of advice is to be honest.
Part of the above, is the next step - taking the blame for what you did wrong.
This is just as hard. I know. It's always so easy to blame someone else or circumstances or your mood. It's not always true though and you know it. Sometimes you did wrong and you're going to have to own up to it. You're going to have to be the one that says I'm sorry, I did wrong. Then you're going to have to be the one who waits for your lover to say he/she forgives you or is still mad at you. This is all part of the making up process, a necessary part.
The problem is that if you don't own up to your mistakes, how can you expect them to own up to theirs? If you make the first move and admit what you did, then you can hope that they are strong enough in the assurance of your love to do the same. And you must give them that assurance, too.
You must state that you love them, if it's true. Obviously if it's not true, then don't say it. We're talking in this article about breaking up with your loved one, so I can only assume that you love this person you are making up with, or trying to.
It's a good foundation on which to build - honesty - owning up to your mistakes and telling them you love them, giving them the assurance that you are willing to forgive their mistakes, if not immediately then in time. Telling them that you want to continue this bond. Assuring them of your forgiveness in time. Letting them know you trust and accept them. This is all part of the making up process.
This short article does not give me room to explain all that I am trying to convey to you. I wish I could help you understand why I believe this is so important. I've been married 33 years and I know what a broken heart feels like. Making up has been part of my marriage for years and I always hated the reason for it. It's so important, though, and so worth the effort. I still love my husband more than words can say and I would never wish any other person to go through life without their lover at their side.
So I suggest you do whatever is necessary, also legal and moral, to win back your lover. Making up is extremely important. Don't ever overlook it.
You can get more by visiting When your heart is broken, it's the most painful and emotional day of your life. Nothing else can so easily rob you of a will to live, or is more important than love. You have no one to turn to, because the person you would have leaned on, in this time of crisis, is the one you have separated from. You feel all alone in your quest to find answers and to rebuild your connection. It can be done though. Your relationship can be healed even after the most intense fight you've ever had, even if the reasons are valid and serious and damning. There's a way you can come back from this and be stronger and in love all over again by simply making up.
This process is more detailed than simply reliving your break up, or your fight, in your mind, or talking about it. It contains many different twists and turns, none of them flattering or comfortable. But each step is necessary and important.
It's also vital that you do this very soon after your break up. Don't wait. Do it now. If you want or need to analyze it, do it quickly. The longer you wait the more time there is for thoughts to enter your mind and his/hers that will make the making up part harder.
I'll give you a few steps and ideas here, then I suggest you look at my bio for an ebook that I know will help you as it has helped many others in the art of making up. And yes, it is an art. Actually I think he called it magic. We all need a little magic from time to time. That's why so many people need help in their time of crisis. You are not alone.
I found that after a fight, or break up, I must sit quietly and think about all that was said and done and the cause of it. Then I can look at it a little more objectively. When I do this, I can often see what I said and did that was wrong and I concentrate on what I've done, should do next time, or didn't do. I cannot change what they did, but I can listen to their words and feelings and start planning how I'm going to go about making up.
It's so important at this time to be brutally honest, with yourself as well as with your lover or partner. It's hard though, too, because your feelings sometimes get in the way. You must persist. If you cannot be honest, you will have nothing on which to build. If it's hard for you, consider the probability that it's just as hard for him/her.
So my first word of advice is to be honest.
Part of the above, is the next step - taking the blame for what you did wrong.
This is just as hard. I know. It's always so easy to blame someone else or circumstances or your mood. It's not always true though and you know it. Sometimes you did wrong and you're going to have to own up to it. You're going to have to be the one that says I'm sorry, I did wrong. Then you're going to have to be the one who waits for your lover to say he/she forgives you or is still mad at you. This is all part of the making up process, a necessary part.
The problem is that if you don't own up to your mistakes, how can you expect them to own up to theirs? If you make the first move and admit what you did, then you can hope that they are strong enough in the assurance of your love to do the same. And you must give them that assurance, too.
You must state that you love them, if it's true. Obviously if it's not true, then don't say it. We're talking in this article about breaking up with your loved one, so I can only assume that you love this person you are making up with, or trying to.
It's a good foundation on which to build - honesty - owning up to your mistakes and telling them you love them, giving them the assurance that you are willing to forgive their mistakes, if not immediately then in time. Telling them that you want to continue this bond. Assuring them of your forgiveness in time. Letting them know you trust and accept them. This is all part of the making up process.
This short article does not give me room to explain all that I am trying to convey to you. I wish I could help you understand why I believe this is so important. I've been married 33 years and I know what a broken heart feels like. Making up has been part of my marriage for years and I always hated the reason for it. It's so important, though, and so worth the effort. I still love my husband more than words can say and I would never wish any other person to go through life without their lover at their side.
So I suggest you do whatever is necessary, also legal and moral, to win back your lover. Making up is extremely important. Don't ever overlook it.
You can get more by visting Making up
This process is more detailed than simply reliving your break up, or your fight, in your mind, or talking about it. It contains many different twists and turns, none of them flattering or comfortable. But each step is necessary and important.
It's also vital that you do this very soon after your break up. Don't wait. Do it now. If you want or need to analyze it, do it quickly. The longer you wait the more time there is for thoughts to enter your mind and his/hers that will make the making up part harder.
I'll give you a few steps and ideas here, then I suggest you look at my bio for an ebook that I know will help you as it has helped many others in the art of making up. And yes, it is an art. Actually I think he called it magic. We all need a little magic from time to time. That's why so many people need help in their time of crisis. You are not alone.
I found that after a fight, or break up, I must sit quietly and think about all that was said and done and the cause of it. Then I can look at it a little more objectively. When I do this, I can often see what I said and did that was wrong and I concentrate on what I've done, should do next time, or didn't do. I cannot change what they did, but I can listen to their words and feelings and start planning how I'm going to go about making up.
It's so important at this time to be brutally honest, with yourself as well as with your lover or partner. It's hard though, too, because your feelings sometimes get in the way. You must persist. If you cannot be honest, you will have nothing on which to build. If it's hard for you, consider the probability that it's just as hard for him/her.
So my first word of advice is to be honest.
Part of the above, is the next step - taking the blame for what you did wrong.
This is just as hard. I know. It's always so easy to blame someone else or circumstances or your mood. It's not always true though and you know it. Sometimes you did wrong and you're going to have to own up to it. You're going to have to be the one that says I'm sorry, I did wrong. Then you're going to have to be the one who waits for your lover to say he/she forgives you or is still mad at you. This is all part of the making up process, a necessary part.
The problem is that if you don't own up to your mistakes, how can you expect them to own up to theirs? If you make the first move and admit what you did, then you can hope that they are strong enough in the assurance of your love to do the same. And you must give them that assurance, too.
You must state that you love them, if it's true. Obviously if it's not true, then don't say it. We're talking in this article about breaking up with your loved one, so I can only assume that you love this person you are making up with, or trying to.
It's a good foundation on which to build - honesty - owning up to your mistakes and telling them you love them, giving them the assurance that you are willing to forgive their mistakes, if not immediately then in time. Telling them that you want to continue this bond. Assuring them of your forgiveness in time. Letting them know you trust and accept them. This is all part of the making up process.
This short article does not give me room to explain all that I am trying to convey to you. I wish I could help you understand why I believe this is so important. I've been married 33 years and I know what a broken heart feels like. Making up has been part of my marriage for years and I always hated the reason for it. It's so important, though, and so worth the effort. I still love my husband more than words can say and I would never wish any other person to go through life without their lover at their side.
So I suggest you do whatever is necessary, also legal and moral, to win back your lover. Making up is extremely important. Don't ever overlook it.
You can get more by visiting When your heart is broken, it's the most painful and emotional day of your life. Nothing else can so easily rob you of a will to live, or is more important than love. You have no one to turn to, because the person you would have leaned on, in this time of crisis, is the one you have separated from. You feel all alone in your quest to find answers and to rebuild your connection. It can be done though. Your relationship can be healed even after the most intense fight you've ever had, even if the reasons are valid and serious and damning. There's a way you can come back from this and be stronger and in love all over again by simply making up.
This process is more detailed than simply reliving your break up, or your fight, in your mind, or talking about it. It contains many different twists and turns, none of them flattering or comfortable. But each step is necessary and important.
It's also vital that you do this very soon after your break up. Don't wait. Do it now. If you want or need to analyze it, do it quickly. The longer you wait the more time there is for thoughts to enter your mind and his/hers that will make the making up part harder.
I'll give you a few steps and ideas here, then I suggest you look at my bio for an ebook that I know will help you as it has helped many others in the art of making up. And yes, it is an art. Actually I think he called it magic. We all need a little magic from time to time. That's why so many people need help in their time of crisis. You are not alone.
I found that after a fight, or break up, I must sit quietly and think about all that was said and done and the cause of it. Then I can look at it a little more objectively. When I do this, I can often see what I said and did that was wrong and I concentrate on what I've done, should do next time, or didn't do. I cannot change what they did, but I can listen to their words and feelings and start planning how I'm going to go about making up.
It's so important at this time to be brutally honest, with yourself as well as with your lover or partner. It's hard though, too, because your feelings sometimes get in the way. You must persist. If you cannot be honest, you will have nothing on which to build. If it's hard for you, consider the probability that it's just as hard for him/her.
So my first word of advice is to be honest.
Part of the above, is the next step - taking the blame for what you did wrong.
This is just as hard. I know. It's always so easy to blame someone else or circumstances or your mood. It's not always true though and you know it. Sometimes you did wrong and you're going to have to own up to it. You're going to have to be the one that says I'm sorry, I did wrong. Then you're going to have to be the one who waits for your lover to say he/she forgives you or is still mad at you. This is all part of the making up process, a necessary part.
The problem is that if you don't own up to your mistakes, how can you expect them to own up to theirs? If you make the first move and admit what you did, then you can hope that they are strong enough in the assurance of your love to do the same. And you must give them that assurance, too.
You must state that you love them, if it's true. Obviously if it's not true, then don't say it. We're talking in this article about breaking up with your loved one, so I can only assume that you love this person you are making up with, or trying to.
It's a good foundation on which to build - honesty - owning up to your mistakes and telling them you love them, giving them the assurance that you are willing to forgive their mistakes, if not immediately then in time. Telling them that you want to continue this bond. Assuring them of your forgiveness in time. Letting them know you trust and accept them. This is all part of the making up process.
This short article does not give me room to explain all that I am trying to convey to you. I wish I could help you understand why I believe this is so important. I've been married 33 years and I know what a broken heart feels like. Making up has been part of my marriage for years and I always hated the reason for it. It's so important, though, and so worth the effort. I still love my husband more than words can say and I would never wish any other person to go through life without their lover at their side.
So I suggest you do whatever is necessary, also legal and moral, to win back your lover. Making up is extremely important. Don't ever overlook it.
You can get more by visting Making up
Sunday, September 28, 2008
Can You Reunite With Your Ex and Save Your Relationship?
Makingup with your ex can be defficult and easy if you know the secret of makingup,am about to share with you some vital infomation that can help you reunite or makingup with your ex.
If your relationship seems hopeless there is help no matter what the situation maybe. Learning what to say and do can help tremendously. Learning how to correct mistakes in a relationship is very important too. Using the combination of the "Clean Slate Method" and "Breaking the Pattern" can help you start over.
If you have broken up and don't want to waste hundreds of dollars on relationship counselors then this I know is the next best thing that I have discovered. "The Magic of Making Up". At first I thought this person was way out there, especially with a title like "The Magic of Making Up" and then he calls it his "Love Recipe". Being in a hurtful situation is not easy. Not knowing about all the what ifs and only if I had done that instead, would it of changed things?
Getting yourself back on the right track is not easy either. What can I say? What can I do? Plus I don't have enough money for a therapist. If these are some of the problems you are experiencing then "The Magic of Making Up" will help you get yourself headed in the right direction and back on track of getting your relationship back. Just remember not all relationship can be salvaged but "The Magic of Making Up" can make most of them.
Get more from the doctor that has help many to reunite with their ex by vitingMakingup
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If your relationship seems hopeless there is help no matter what the situation maybe. Learning what to say and do can help tremendously. Learning how to correct mistakes in a relationship is very important too. Using the combination of the "Clean Slate Method" and "Breaking the Pattern" can help you start over.
If you have broken up and don't want to waste hundreds of dollars on relationship counselors then this I know is the next best thing that I have discovered. "The Magic of Making Up". At first I thought this person was way out there, especially with a title like "The Magic of Making Up" and then he calls it his "Love Recipe". Being in a hurtful situation is not easy. Not knowing about all the what ifs and only if I had done that instead, would it of changed things?
Getting yourself back on the right track is not easy either. What can I say? What can I do? Plus I don't have enough money for a therapist. If these are some of the problems you are experiencing then "The Magic of Making Up" will help you get yourself headed in the right direction and back on track of getting your relationship back. Just remember not all relationship can be salvaged but "The Magic of Making Up" can make most of them.
Get more from the doctor that has help many to reunite with their ex by vitingMakingup
Zee R (makingup)
http://www.squidoo.com/Gettingyourexloverback
Thursday, September 4, 2008
Welcome to my magic of making up blog
Welcome to my world of making up,where you will learn the magic of making up with your love one.You don't have to die in silent wishing you could make up,simply take the right step and live a joyfuln life withe the one you love.
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